There are two schools of thought. One that believes that moms need to put themselves first and one that believe that moms should always put kids, husbands, etc before them and that it is a privilege to be in a position to do so.
I took a slightly unorthodox approach to this while figuring out my balance journey — I’m honestly sick of that word now. I always tire of words that are over used by the masses…. side- bar I looked up alternative words to balance and I came up with even-stevenness… ok — sorry, I digressed, balance it is.
I took a long hard look at what makes Staci happy. You know, dissecting the pros and cons of my daily comings and goings and created a flow-chart/spread-sheet/power-point presentation and decided that I was going to put myself, at the top of my to do list, which meant I was going to make myself happy. I felt like a light bulb went off and a marching band charged through the house! Guess what makes me happy? Doing things for my family makes me happy. Wait — hold on. Is this a 2fer. I dare say it is. I would call this, a #winwin.
In our busy lives one thing I found that I could do for myself and for my family was to get up 30 minutes before everyone else and make all 3 of the boys breakfast before they left the house. I then pushed back all appointments until after my youngest left for school. By really looking at what made my heart happy I realized that I could put myself on the top of my list while keeping my family right next to me at the same time. Doing this for them — fulfilled me. End result — we all win.
I think this concept will make both camps happy. I still believe at the end of the day we must take care of ourselves in order to care for others, but, think outside of the box… moms are smart,- you never know. If there really is a way to have our cake and to eat it too.. only a mother would be able to figure that out!